Peace family, grieving can be especially painful during the holidays. Gary Roe, chaplain with Hospice Brazos Valley, is going to be checking in with us for the next several weeks, and he has some tips for healing and making it through the holidays.
Gary Roe says, if you’ve been grieving over the holidays, then you’ve managed to survive Christmas, and that is a big, big deal. Pat yourself on the back for that. That is not easy. God created us for relationship with himself and with other people, so we naturally don’t do separation very well. When we lose a loved one, whether they die or leave, it’s incredibly painful.
With Christmas over, we’re headed into the thought of a new year without that loved one at least physically present in our lives. It brings up all kinds of questions about the future, You might be thinking, “Goodness, I can’t count on this anymore,” or it might mean the death of some plans and some dreams. How we look at 2018 if we’re grieving, becomes very, very important.
Number one, it’s still okay to be sad if you’re grieving. That’s just part of the process. The grief is within you and it needs to come out continually in healthy ways. Continue to find ways to speak your loved one’s name, to tell their story to anybody who will listen, to find ways to honor them from time to time by living their legacy or serving in their name, whatever the case might be, and as you look ahead to the future, please, keep this in mind: now is not forever. The way it is right now, and the way you feel right now, it won’t always be that way. The grief will change over time.
As you let the Lord walk with you in the midst of this grief, over time, you will find yourself beginning to heal and beginning to adjust. That doesn’t mean it will be easy, and that doesn’t mean you will stop missing your loved one. You never stop missing them, and you’ll never forget them. You just begin to do life in such a way that still includes them in your life, somehow, some way.
If you aren’t grieving right now, please, remember that many, many people are. They might be smiling, and they might be saying, “Happy New Year,” but inside, it might be a different story for them. Please, be aware, sensitive, and compassionate. God can use you greatly in the lives of hurting people, if you’re willing.
Remember most of all, that Jesus knows all about grief. He is the ultimate grief expert, and over time, if you let him, he will turn your mourning into joy. God bless you.
You can find more details to help get through the holidays and get through them well by going to Gary Roe’s website, HERE, or copy and paste this link into your browser: https://www.garyroe.com/
Click below to listen to Gary chat with Peace 107’s Brian and Kat: