Hi Peace Family! It’s Jami Mayberry and I wanted to share this with you. Dave Willis is a great writer and he wrote this outline. I edited it down to share with you.
Do you ever wonder what your children will remember about you? It won’t be the home decor or manicured lawn or whether the fridge was stocked with name brands or generics. Here are 5 very important things that your kids WILL remember about you.
1. The times you made them feel safe.
There is a need for protection in the heart of every child. They will remember the moments you chased the monsters from under their bed or held them after a nightmare. They will also the remember the times your temper became the monster they feared. Make it your mission to make your children feel safe.
2. The times you gave them your undivided attention.
Kids measure love by your attentiveness to them. The times you stop what you are doing and throw the ball or have a tea party or jump on the trampoline will be memories etched in their minds and hearts forever. Take the time to do the little things with your kids because they will be the moments that matter most.
3. The way you interact with your spouse.
Our kids form their views of love by watching how we treat our mates. Strive to have the kind of marriage that makes them excited to get married someday. Let them see their mom and dad in a loving, committed relationship.
4. Your words of affirmation and your words of criticism.
A child’s heart is like wet cement. Impressions made early in life will harden over time. They will base their sense of identity, capability and self-worth on the words you speak to them in those formative years. Part of our job as parents is to correct and discipline, but even in correction, let your words be full of love, encouragement and positive reinforcement.
5. Your family traditions.
Kids have a deep need for predictability. They will remember the traditions you establish whether it’s family movie night, a favorite place to travel as a family, they way you celebrate birthdays and holidays and other special events. Be intentional about creating some traditions that they will want o pass onto their own children one day.