To Shattered Hearts by Sandra Cobb

If you’re like me, you do your best to plan and be proactive. We plan, we schedule, and we organize our lives in our attempt to control them to the best of our

ability. Truth is, we don’t have as much control over our lives as we would like to believe. Unforeseen events occur every day. Events like a divorce or separation. Maybe the unforeseen death of a loved one or acts of betrayal and rejection. Events of such gravity not only hurt us but can shatter our hearts.

If you are currently in the emotional state of a shattered heart, this love letter is just for you. It’s one I feel the heavenly Father has shared with me to offer hope, peace, and healing:

My Dear Beloved,

I want to ensure you of valuable truths to get you through this challenging time of heartbreak. I can hear the thoughts you wrestle with: How did I let this happen? Is it all my fault?

What I value most about our relationship isn’t your performance but that you choose to love me. I could have programmed you and others to perform exactly to my desires, but that’s not real love. I decided to give you and all humankind the right to exercise your free will, your choices. The choices people make often negatively impact the lives of others, including yours. I know your heart is broken now, but don’t give up hope. I know your heart and dreams have been crushed, but I beseech you to hear me out and stand firm on three facts:

First, you are valuable, and I still have good plans for you.

Let me address the elephant in the room. You are right, you did not deserve to be mistreated the way you were! I watch you daily doing your best to practice treating others the way you want to be treated. This is a core value that I want all my children to have; however, not everyone does.

Here is what you need to know: you are still valuable to me! “Even before you were formed in your mother’s belly, I knew you [and approved of you as My chosen instrument], And before you were born, I consecrated you [to Myself as My Own]” (Jeremiah 1:5 AMP). Unfortunately, humans often try to devalue you to make themselves feel better. They usually do this out of the pain they are experiencing in their own lives. Yet, you must remember I fearfully and wonderfully created you. You were never a mistake. Opinions of others, including your own, have never altered my opinion of you. You are still the apple of my eye. (Psalm 17:8, AMP)

I know that the absence of your loved one has been a great emotional loss for you. You have been feeling like your life has no purpose. Remember what I told my prophet, Jeremiah: “I know the thoughts I think toward you… thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end” (Jeremiah 29:11). These words also apply to you, my love. No one and nothing can derail the good plans that I have established for you.

Second, you have come too far to give up now.

I’ve heard your thoughts, the lies you tell yourself, I just need to give up. But you can’t stop here! There is so much more ahead of you. You can’t give up doing what is right. You will reap the good back in your life. “And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.” (Galatians 6:9)

I know you did not see this event coming. It took you by surprise. It looks messy and may seem hopeless but keep pressing forward like your brother Paul: “I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus” (Philippians 3:14 KJV). I will work all things out together for your good (Romans 8:28). Do not fret yourself about how I will get it done; just know that I will.

I am not minimizing your pain; I can empathize with you very well. You had a reasonable expectation that you would have been treated differently. Of all people, you should have been able to trust this person. Take the time to confront what you’re feeling, and don’t try to sweep your emotions under the rug. Allow me to help you heal through my words, my strength, and the grace I extend to you every day. Let me remind you that every morning I give you brand new compassions to make it through your day. (Lamentations 3:23)

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