This morning, Brian was looking at a website he uses for tracking his exercise and eating habits, and we got to talking about how sometimes our friends can bring us down. In the case of getting healthier, sometimes they sabotage our healthier choices through ignorance, different values, or even jealousy. This behavior isn’t limited to wanting to lose weight, either. Friends and family can affect our habits like smoking and drinking, or even our values, the way we speak, how positively or negatively we view the world, and how we think.
I am a big believer of the Celebrate Recovery program, and one thing that I either heard there or read in one of two books, Boundaries, or Safe People (both by Cloud and Townsend), is that we are designed by God to be in community, so it can be very troubling, especially for Christians, when we need to limit ourselves in toxic relationships. To be able to let go of unhealthy relationships, it is essential to build a group of friends who will support you in your goals. It can feel vulnerable and awkward at first as you invite people into your life to help you out, but the healthier relationships will be worth it.
The friends we surround ourselves with make such a huge impact on our lives. I’ve heard it said that you are an average of the five people you spend the most time with. Do your friends press you onwards to become all that you are called and desire to be? Spend time with people who you’d like to learn from and become more like. Eventually, when you are strong and supported, it’s so much easier to help pull up others who are struggling with the same issues that you’ve been working through.
Build yourself a support team this week. If you don’t even know where to start, you can find safe community at several Celebrate Recovery meetings around town. Details are on our calendar, HERE.
Anyway, just a few thoughts from your friendly, neighborhood Kat.